When Things Don’t Go According to Plan and Friday’s Winner
January 5, 2008 1 Comment
We are working like fiends round these parts to get all of the Husband Project up and running for you by the 10th.
Then things don’t go according to plan. [Read more...]
20 Gifts that Are More Thought than Bought
December 14, 2007 Leave a Comment
The first year I wasn’t working full-time at Christmas, my husband and I tightened our belts in every way possible, including trimming our Christmas gift budget.
As I tried to figure out how to still spread holiday cheer, it dawned on me the most meaningful presents I’d received weren’t things that could be purchased at a mall: [Read more...]
3 Things You Can Do to have a Better Relationship with Your Man Today
August 8, 2010 11 Comments
As you probably know from the kind of books I write, I am pretty crazy about my husband.
But, just like every other marriage, unless I am intetional about letting him know it, I can sometimes forget that little fact.
I have certain things that stress me out in our relationship:
- Traveling Together
- Directions while traveling
- Traveling with kids
(Do you see a pattern here?)
It can be hard to remember all the reasons that Roger rocks my world on a regular basis.
So instead of silently pouting and waiting until it all gets better, (because really? I was the one with the attitude this weekend…) it’s time for my campaign to let Roger know that I love him.
So here are three simple things I am going to do to improve my relationship with my man, today.
- Leaving a Post-it Y’all know I have a deep affection for my office supplies. When I can combine my love of all things form Office Depot with my love of my man, it’s a beautiful thing. So I’m going to let Roger know – via sticky note – one of the reasons I love him.
- Make Him a Treat Baked goods always make Roger feel loved. I have time today to make him something (OK – so it will probably involve a mix, but still…) but if I didn’t, there is no reason I can’t get him something from Safeway.
- Brag on Him It takes about two seconds to think of something great about Roger – but that does little good unless I share it. Sometimes, I need to share it with Rog, but it is way more effective to let someone he knows how much he rocks.
So today, I want you to join me in a love-a-thon. Will you do one thing to let your man know he rocks? tell us what you did (or are going to do) and I will enter you into a drawing for one of my favorite marriage-enhancing books:
Red-Hot Monogomy by Bill and Pam Farrel.
Make sure you let me know know what it is, here on the blog, by Wednesday, and I will enter you into the drawing.
A Great Example – Mr. Rogers’ Hood
November 30, 2007 Leave a Comment
OK, so I may be dating myself here.
Growing up, I loved Mr. Rogers. Although, I have to admit, the Neighborhood of Make Believe freaked me out.
I think what I loved about Mr. Rogers was his gentle attitude; and if you ask me what I remember most about the show, it would definitely be his “getting home” routine.
I loved his routine of changing from his work clothes into his “at home” duds. His transition each day marked the end of one part of his day and the beginning of the more relaxing, comfortable part.
There’s something inside our husband that craves that transition. Most men need some way to signal the end of work and the beginning of home — laying down for a little bit, reading a magazine, going to their “cave,” or yes, by changing into their favorite light blue cardigan.
Find a way to build that time into his day.
A Warm Marriage
December 20, 2007 Leave a Comment
By Paula Friedrichsen
We live in a disposable society. It’s now cheaper to buy a new toaster, vacuum, blender, TV, or computer than it is to have the old one repaired. Our frantic pace and enjoyment of new things dictates that we must quickly toss out anything old and obsolete, replacing it with something up to date and appealing. Things just don’t seem to hold their value anymore. [Read more...]
All About Me
December 25, 2007 Leave a Comment
It’s a new week, again, and the best way to take care of your man at the start of the week is to take care of his wife, too.
Five minutes. That’s all you need today. (Okay, it may take 10 minutes to prep for this, but it will be worth it, promise.) [Read more...]
All About ME Monday
December 9, 2007 Leave a Comment
Part of taking care of our husbands, or anyone else, for that matter (mommies listen up here) is taking care of ourselves. We’ve all heard that when there is an emergency on an airplane we must first put on our own oxygen mask before doing so for our loved ones. (How can we take care of anyone when we are passed out on the airplane floor with only a bag of peanuts to cushion our fall?)
It’s impossible to make other people the top priority on your list when you don’t even show up on the page.
So your add-on project today is one that is all about YOU. Today, set aside time (even if it’s only two minutes) to go into your bathroom, find one of those bottles of lotion you received as a thank-you gift, and lay it on thick. Do your arms, your elbows, your heels; everywhere that’ll feel good and just a little bit luxurious.
While this add on is all about you, there will be double return on your time investment. You husband will get a softer, smoother, and more relaxed wife.
Bonus Day – Week 1 Sex – Doing Your Homework
February 1, 2008 Leave a Comment
It’s time to talk about sex, ladies.
Your man needs and wants sex, probably more than you do.
If a man feels like he’s desirable to you, the love of his life, the other areas that he may be struggling in (work, parenting, etc.) seem somehow more manageable.
One time this week, it’s your job to initiate sex. For some of you, this is going to be way beyond your comfort zone. Do what you can – if it means snuggling, do that. The idea here is to take the first step and be open and tender.
In my experience, it’s better to shoot for earlier in the week to “make your move,” so that if things come up (he has to work late, sick kids, etc.) you still have some time to check this off your list.
In preparation for your romantic evening, I encourage you to pick up a book on the subject. Let it be your inspiration in case things have become a little predictable (or downright non-existent).
Two of my favorites, both written by Dr. Kevin Leman:
“Sex Begins in the Kitchen” and “Sheet Music”
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